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How to Stop Co-sleeping with Your Toddler?- 5 Fail-safe Methods to Make the Transition Easy for Your Kids

How To Stop Co-sleeping With Your Toddler?- 5 Fail-safe Methods To Make The Transition Easy For Your Kids

Co-sleeping or bedsharing with your child is a great way to bond with them. There are many reasons why parents start co-sleeping with their children in the first place. In my case, my firstborn son Damien slept much better when I held him close to me. I was his fuzzy teddy bear.

(Hey, Susie here.  This is a guest post from a friend sharing her story of how she went from co-sleeping to getting her toddler out of her bed.  No judgment if you’re ever in a situation where you are co-sleeping… Take the advice that worked great for her to transition as easy as possible.)

It’s not just him. I also slept much better knowing I can be by his side whenever he needs me. Leaving him alone on a crib in a separate room was out of the question.

But eventually, my husband and I had to figure out a way to quit bedsharing with our son. We had our reasons.

First of all, if he doesn’t learn to sleep alone from his toddlerhood, it will be more difficult to do it later. Secondly, our bed wasn’t big enough to comfortably accommodate two adults and a toddler.

Last and the biggest reason, I was pregnant with a second child by the time Damien was almost 3 years old. It would have been crrrraaaaazyyyyy to have two kids with us in our bedroom.

Asking a three-year-old boy to sleep alone in a separate room all a sudden would have been rude. Parents who are reading this, please do not make kid switch rooms overnight. It may give way a wrong impression.

Your kid might feel you don’t love him anymore. The transition from your bed to his own room has to go smooth, slow, gentle and free from any tear-jerking argument.

Here are a few things you can try to make the transition easier for both your kids and you.

Begin with the Crib

Do you expect your kid to just be fine with this sudden change? He will struggle to adjust to his own space from day 1. To make the transition easier on him, take small steps from today.

Instead of putting him in your own bed, make him sleep in a crib placed right beside your bed. Once he gets used to sleeping in his own little space, put the crib in his own room. It is a fail-safe method, I tried it myself and had great success.

Decorate Your Kid’s Room

Your child should have a say in how he wants his room to be. Involve your kids in the shopping for new bedsheets, blankets, wall decorations, and stuff toys for their very own room. It’s a great way to get them excited about having their own personal space, where they can play, roll and relax.

The Comfort Factor

The initial stage of solo sleeping can be very difficult for kids. Having to sleep alone in a dark room without parents isn’t easy. Kids feel much relaxed and fall asleep faster when they sense their mother’s presence near them.

To comfort them, you can install a baby monitor with talk-back intercom in their room. Use it to communicate with your toddler whenever he is having trouble sleeping. Your soothing voice will instantly calm his senses.

Many baby monitors also have a soothing nightlight and can play lullabies to help them sleep peacefully in your absence.

Sleep Training

Sleep training should ideally begin by the time your baby turns 4 months old. This includes training your kids to sleep and wake up at the same time every day. You should also make your munchkins follow a set nighttime ritual.

Damien’s bedtime routine includes brushing, followed by a warm bath, followed by reading a book before he goes to sleep.

Take It Easy

No matter what you do, your kid will still struggle to sleep without you for the first few weeks. You got to wean him off your presence gradually.

For the first 5 days, I slept with Damien the whole night in his new room. When he got used to sleeping in this new environment, I tried the “camping out method”.

Instead co-sleeping, I sat on a chair next to his bed for the next 3 days. Then I kept rolling the chair farther and farther away for the next 7 days until I moved out of the doorway.

Yes, it did take me 15 long days to get my son to adjust to his own room but it worked. There was no tear, no anger-filled tantrum. He slept happily and peacefully in his cot since then and I couldn’t be happier.

To Sum up

It wasn’t just my kid who had to get used to sleeping alone. It wasn’t easy for me either, you know? Truth be told, initially, I felt guilty and selfish for making him switch rooms. I know you might feel the same at some point. But let me assure you, it is for the best. The more you delay the process, the harder it will be for both of you. So relax, get some coffee and start planning the entire thing ASAP.

Susie Parker

Susie Parker is founder of Sleep Baby Love and a Certified Infant and Child Sleep Consultant through the Family Sleep Institute. When Susie's not ridding the world of sleepless families, she loves spending time with her two girls that have given her a ton of real world sleep experience head on.

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